On my podcast you may have heard me say … Be the LEADER of your life. This is one of my main messages for my clients, the listeners of How She Really Does It and you here reading this. Being the leader of your life is part of what I call “adulting.” When we were […]
You have high standards. You want to excel. You believe the pathway to excellence is to beat yourself up. You believe that if you are critical of yourself … you’ll finally shape up and be better. How’s it working for you? Keep your high standards. It’s awesome that you want to excel … we are […]
You don’t want to feel it. You’ve tried to outrun it. You’ve tried to numb it. My friend, the thing you don’t want to feel is a painful feeling of anxiety (or replace anxiety with your painful feeling – FEAR, SHAME, SADNESS, etc) … Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But there is a way out that is […]
You hear their voices. You worry about what other people think. You let others stop you from doing what you want. You don’t speak up, because you’re afraid of what others will think. It’s time to let go of other people’s opinions. While you may mistakenly believe this allows you to be safe, you’ve allowed […]
Remember Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? She was in search of the Wizard to solve her problems. Much like my inner child wants the “white knight to rescue me.” Dorothy had so many obstacles to overcome on her path down that yellow brick road. She also had others join her on her journey and […]
On the outside…you look like you have it all. On the outside…you look like you know what you are doing. On the outside…you appear to be so nice. That is to everyone else but YOU. Instead you beat yourself up. Internally, you demand that you BE better. You demand that you DO better. STOP IT, […]
I’m an idiot. I’m dumb. I’m such a loser. I’m sure you can add to the list of critical thoughts you tell yourself over and over and over again, every hour of every day. What’s your intention with these mean things you’re saying to yourself? A better YOU? We’ve been culturally programmed to believe criticism […]
One night I was staring up at the ceiling while lying in bed. I was scared out of my mind. I was unsure that life could be better. I wanted certainty. I wanted security. I wanted to have enough money and then I would be safe. I was 11 years old and heard my parents […]
You want the guaranteed outcome. We all do. Then you can eliminate risk. You will be productive + efficient. You will know you made the right choice. You won’t lose face and have to deal with that awful feeling of SHAME. Sounds lovely. My friend, it’s a big fat lie. There is NO guaranteed outcome. […]
When someone asks you how you’re doing? Do you tell them all the shitty things that are going on? Do you tell them all the amazing things in your life? As you go through your day, do you: Focus on what’s not working? Focus on what is working in your life, job, family? When you […]