Something I find with so many of my clients is that they apologize. Sometimes they genuinely believe they are sorry for something, but other times, they use “I’m sorry” because there’s space, and they want to fill it.
The phrase “I’m sorry” is often overused. I spend a fair amount of time helping my clients notice they’re saying it and reframing their thinking around it. We say it so frequently that sometimes it loses its meaning, but awareness is the first step in making a change.
There are some things that we should apologize for, but we should not apologize for things that are not our responsibility. We have been culturally programmed to apologize for things that don’t always warrant an apology, and I’m showing you how to be deliberate in this powerful area of your life.
I invite you to ask yourself: why are you apologizing? Check in with yourself and pay attention to what you’re doing with “I’m sorry” and what’s behind it. Ask yourself what you’re apologizing for and whether it’s something you’re truly responsible for.
Join me this week and hear some reasons people say “I’m sorry” and how to identify whether you are using it when you need to be. I’m talking about the process of understanding why we use “I’m sorry”, what we do with it, and what to do instead.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
- How I learned to be okay with taking up space.
- Why you never need to apologize for having emotions.
- How to check in with yourself the next time you say “I’m sorry”.
- The importance of understanding your emotions.
- How to put yourself first and be a priority in your own life.
- Why frequently saying “I’m sorry” is a way of staying small.
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