I understand.
You get busy …
You didn’t realize …
That your relationships with your girlfriends are created by the little things.
But, you’ve discounted the little things.
Instead you listen to the voice in the back of your head:
- “It doesn’t matter.”
- “No one will notice.”
- “She won’t care.”
- “It’s really not that big of a deal.”
But do you know if any one of those beliefs are really true? Have you:
- Paid attention?
- Listened to what your friend has asked for?
- Heard what she wants?
Do you pay attention to the little things that delight her?
My hunch is you know the answers to these questions …
But, then you disregard what she wants, asks for, + mentions …
It could be as simple:
- As an occasional phone call to check in.
- An invitation to coffee instead of her being the one to always arrange it.
- A quick text on her birthday.
- A “Yippee skippee” on her Instagram or Facebook post.
- A like or ♥️.
Some of these little things take a fraction of a second.
While other little things may take two hours tops.
Yet, you don’t do it.
Now let me be clear.
I’m in no way suggesting you people please or approval whore yourself to your friend.
NO!
I’m saying how do you let your friend know that she matters to you?
I imagine you two have common ground in what she likes + what you like.
Use that to show her that she matters to you.
Pick something that is meaningful + comfortable for both of you.
For instance, you know how much she loves being invited to coffee and you enjoy coffee talk time with her.
Go call or text her now and get a date on the calendar.
Or, on her birthday, even though you can’t stand the social media shout outs – send her a quick text.
It really is the little things.
Do it with what is aligned with who you are.
She will appreciate you.
You will feel more connected with her.
smiling,
P.S. Find the little things that matter for you. Check out this podcast episode about self-care. You’ll learn how to figure out what does and doesn’t work for you.