You did what you were told to do!
You worked hard.
You did what others wanted you to do.
You put others first.
You cared about other people’s opinions over your own.
You became highly educated to prove your worthiness.
You over (and over and over) achieve at work in order to prove your worthiness.
You became a perfectionist in order to finally be good enough.
You became who others wanted you to be, and forgot who you really are.
You once believed if you did all those things for others, that you would finally be ENOUGH + be able to like yourself.
But, you still don’t like yourself, you still don’t feel ENOUGH.
Now you sit here in this shamestorm(voice of not enough) and you’re exhausted.
You want to run away from your job, and your life.
My friend, there really is a better way than to quit.
You can do good work without overdoing.
You can serve others by actually having strong boundaries.
You are bright, you have opinions that matter and need to be part of the mix.
Your people need you to be YOU.
You have so much value to offer, it’s been covered up with who you think you are supposed to be.
That’s an exhausting way to live your life.
Remember:
- You don’t need to run away.
- You don’t need to overachieve.
- You don’t need to put other people’s needs first.
- You don’t need to be a perfectionist.
- You’ve been lied to.
You are capable of being ENOUGH and serving others.
You are capable of having the boundaries to do good work without killing yourself to achieve it.
You are capable of sharing your opinion with others and offering tremendous value.
You matter.
It’s time to be the best version of you.
Show up in your life, instead of play-acting who others want you to be.
How to Show Up:
- Tell yourself over and over again what you are capable of.
- Use those statements.
- Believe those statements.
- Remind yourself over and over to get it in your bones.
[Need a little help coming up with new statements? I’ve got your back … look again at the three “you are capable” statements above. Memorize them. Apply them.]
By you being you, you will feel good about yourself and step onto the path of becoming the best version of you.
smiling,
P.S. Get in touch with your inner stories by using the Mindset Journal. It will make you capable of changing your thoughts and stories so that you can finally feel better!