10 years ago I came up with a concept for my clients and myself.
This was great for those who didn’t use their voice.
The old me went years keeping my thoughts inside of me.
In fact, I buried them so far down, I didn’t know what I thought.
I didn’t know my opinions. I was more interested in finding out other people’s opinions.
I didn’t speak because I was so afraid others wouldn’t like me, if they knew the real me.
To get to know what I believed + to hear my opinions I created the strategy of verbal vomit.
This is where I gave myself permission to be a verbal processor.
I could then let the words come out:
- Without being politically correct.
- Without making any sense.
- Without a solution.
The intent was to let it out.
I became really good at this process.
And with any good thing, there is ALWAYS A DARK SIDE.
While I still do believe it’s valuable to verbal vomit, there’s a boundary to this strategy.
You must use a container.
Think about it.
If you throw up, you don’t throw up anywhere.
Most often you’ll try to make it to a toilet, a bowl, a sink, etc.
When you verbally vomit, use a container.
This could be defined by an amount of time, 5 to 10 minutes is usually sufficient.
20 minutes max.
Sometimes my clients want to spend their entire hour verbally vomiting.
The problem with that is then there isn’t time to focus on solving the problem.
Get it out.
Then use your time + energy to create solutions.
Verbal vomiting is a great strategy to process what’s inside of you.
Just don’t let it take over your focus.
Let it out.
Then, move forward into creating the results you want.
smiling,
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