I used to believe change wasn’t possible for someone like me.
Because I had evidence it wasn’t possible. I thought I was working really hard, but I actually wasn’t working at all. I bought books, they sat on my nightstand. I wanted to stop overeating, except for my nightly three bowls of ice cream. I talked and talked about wanting change, and so kept story-fondling my way into staying stuck.
I wanted change to be like when the fairy godmother waived her wand and turned Cinderella into a beautiful perfect princess! Poof and I was changed.
There was one area of my life that I was able to change. My swimming career. How was I able to change myself as an athlete?
- I committed. I decided I wanted to become a national champion in the 200 fly at the NCAA DIV II championships.
- I was deliberate. When my alarm clock would go off at 5am and I desperately wanted to turn it off and go to sleep, I reminded myself of my commitment, got out of bed and headed for the pool.
- I practiced. I showed up to all the morning practices, afternoon practices and dryland (swimmers’ version of strength training). I did extra running and strength practices on my own. I even practiced visualization to support my goal.
Those three components changed who I was as an athlete. Instead of being on the sidelines watching friends win national titles, I finished in the Top 3 at nationals. Then I applied the same formula of commitment, deliberation and practice to become a national champion, just one year later.
COMMITTED + DELIBERATE + PRACTICE = CHANGE.
When I realized how simple the formula to change was, I started changing everything: my business, my radio show, my personal relationships, my relationship with money, my relationship with my body, and let’s not forget, the AquaMonsters.
I focused on one arena at a time and committed to it. I was deliberate about how I spent my time, energy, mental focus and emotional energy. I practiced each day. With each of the arenas in my life, I was able to change just by following the formula of PRACTICE + COMMITTED + DELIBERATE = CHANGE.
Are you desperate for change? Are you “trying” to change but actually not changing at all? Here’s an experiment: pick an arena and commit to following the change formula for six months. Stick with it no matter what.
Tell me your story in six months.
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