Oprah calls today’s guest the “Marriage Whisperer.” Harville Hendrix is the author of the New York Times bestselling book Getting the Love You Want. One of my favorites and most valuable books of all time. Along with his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, they created Imago Relationship Therapy, a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than individual approach to problem solving in a marriage.
However even the “Marriage Whisperer” can have marital problems. After years of marriage Harville and his wife Helen found themselves in the same situation as their clients – their relationship was in trouble and on the verge of divorce.
Using the the ideas, and techniques they used with their clients on themselves, they moved from conflict to connection and forged a stronger more intimate relationship.
We discuss how conflict and incompatibility can actually strengthen a marriage.
“Curiosity makes us safer than negativity.”
~Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., on How She Really Does It
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In this interview we discuss:
- Imago therapy – what is it?
- how can conflict help a marriage
- curiosity vs judgement
- connection is safe
- why Dr. Hendrix shared his marriage struggles
- Stages of marriage ~ “Romantic Love – Power Struggle – Real Love”
- fixing each other versus “healing the space between two people.”
- Two takeaways – for listeners wanting to improve their marriage
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