Growing up, we didn’t have money, so one of the solutions to my problem was to believe money is evil.
Villainize money to stop myself from wanting it.
Funny thing is … that didn’t work. In fact, it only created more pain and suffering.
I felt SHAME from not having enough money to begin with. Then even more shame was added from the perception that money was evil. And then, the voice of “I’m bad” became very loud in my head.
You can imagine the shame storm this villainization of money created.
From “money is a horrible thing” to eventually “I am a horrible person” who is NOT deserving of money.
I was stuck in the swamplands of shame, hopeless and in disbelief that I could ever get out.
What to do?
First, instead of vilifying money (or a friend, job, company, etc,) there’s a better way. Instead of having a mindset where situations/things are good or evil … there’s a place in the middle and that’s COMPASSION. In this place of COMPASSION your brain opens up to the possibilities and truth.
Money is NOT evil. Money is a commodity we use in our culture to trade goods and services.
If you don’t have as much money as you would like, it is simply a math game for you to figure out how to create more, or reduce your need for more.
Secondly, understand that money is a math game.
From this perspective of compassion, you can get curious and work on solving your situation, instead of creating an even bigger problem and living in a shame storm.
Say this with me, “Money is a math game.”
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