“Who hates Koren?”
Those three words used to cause me so much pain and suffering.
When I was in fifth grade, I received a note after library class with those three words listed at the top of the paper, along with signatures of my classmates.
CRUSHING to anyone, especially this shy, insecure 10 year old new girl.
I spent the next two decades, trying to out hustle this experience from ever occurring again. This was exhausting and did not lead me to a place of liking myself more … it made me hate myself more as I sold myself out to others so they “couldn’t” hate me.
I became who others wanted me to be, instead of allowing myself to show up fully as me.
As an approval whore I was exhausted. I had to remember who I was supposed to be for all the different people in my life. I beat myself up believing that was the pathway to my becoming worthy.
In reality, the disconnection from my own worthiness only grew.
Here’s what I know now — liking me and not liking me has nothing to do with me. Those who do like me, it’s because our values, beliefs, and experiences align … and I validate what they believe to be true.
Those who don’t like me, well we don’t align in our beliefs, values, how we show up in the world and I invalidate what they believe to be true.
And finally, I gave myself permission to fully accept that not everyone has to like me. People can hate me, they can dislike me. And I’m okay.
I’m still worthy without everyone liking me.
The most important person to like me is Koren. When I was worried about who hated me, it only lead to my own deep self-hatred.
Isn’t it time to stop worrying about the haters in your life? Instead choose to like you and focus on those who do like you …
smiling,
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